Things I hope I remember about new babies...

Being pregnant just makes me think of the things I want to remember when I'm in the heat of the moment, ya know, with Paisley pulling on my pant leg and #2 crying.

So I thought I'd make a list of the things I want to remember....in those moments especially!

-sleep...when you can...sleep
-with a newborn it can only be a few things that you have control over:
       1-diaper change
       2-tired
       3-empty or full belly (food or mylicon)
       4-hot or cold
       5-diaper change (I say this twice because it seems like it was more often than not...this problem)
-it's okay to want to hold your baby all the time
-it's okay to put your baby down
-look at your baby...even when they are crying...it will help...you will "see" them
-smile at your baby all the time
-ask for help!!!
-remind yourself..."I am the expert on my baby"...because you are, nobody else is around them like you are...
-get lots of advice THEN choose what you think/know will work for you and your baby...there's so much advice our there because different things work for different people!
-breathe
-sing to your baby, to yourself...whenever you can...it lightens your heart

I'm sure there is more...I will have to do this again...it's nice to feel like I have something to offer myself and my children.  I'm a pretty good Mom...because I try to be, because I want to be, because I was meant to be.

our minds can only focus on one thing at a time....

Jake and I were talking about being positive in a marriage.  I mentioned I'd read in a lesson manual that if we focus on the positives of our spouse it will make it easier to forgive their shortcomings.  He said he learned in school (can't remember which class) that the human brain really can only focus on one thing at a time.  Multi-tasking is really just an ability to switch between multiple things/thoughts quickly. 

That made a lot of sense to me, because I could often say that when I'm multi-tasking the things I am doing are not really getting done as well as they could.  I would imagine that's because they aren't being alotted my real attention :)

SO....if we focus on the positive attributes of our spouse...while we are doing that, we really won't be able to focus on the negative...sounds good to me!

Of course as I am writing this the darn light in the living room above me is flickering and I can't help but wonder if every time I think about that I am removing some of my thought power to write this post :)